During our 7 months together, I would constantly push him away, telling him to fix his home and then come find me. He would move mountains, beg, plead, cry, call, text, show up at my church and convince me that I was what he wanted. I was his BFF, soul mate, other half, our connection was intense. At first, I didn’t open up to him as much, I didn’t want to get hurt. After a few months, I finally opened up to him, however I always had this pit in my stomach about the ex. So, I broke it off with him about 20 times, my fault for taking him back each time. I must have lowered my standards and I see that now.
So a few months ago, he lost his home, job, car, money, etc. He had nothing, but then I started to push more from the relationship. I don’t know what I was expecting from someone who clearly had nothing to give at the moment. He always said and asked me to be patience, which I would do for a week or two and then I would lose it again. I would end it via phone, text, email, you name it I did it. Now this opened up Pandora’s box and set the tone for the next 2 months. Constant fights and arguing. I would meet him out, only to get upset, and leave him at the table. He would show up at church, and I would ignore him. Bottom line, I never trusted the relationship with the ex. I told him I am not a choice or option, to which he said I never was.
Long story, sorry….so about a month ago, I went to his house and found pictures of him and his ex at a wedding a few weeks back, we were not talking at the time, and the pics were of them kissing and hugging. His argument was that I let him go anyways, we were not together, and that I let him go. True, but what do I expect? We were not together, but didn’t expect him to fall back in her arms.
So a month ago, I sent an email, bowing out gracefully. I was on 2 weeks of NC, when I (stupidly) called him. He said he didn’t expect to hear from me again, and that he did miss me, but was tired off all the fighting. We talked for 4 hours, and he asked if we could start fresh, start all over as
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People deserve second chances, but this isn't a second chance. This is a third, fourth, 40th? I'm not sure but clearly you gave him a lot of chances, some may say too many even.
I don't blame your actions. A guy would move out of his girlfriends place no matter what it took if they were truly broken up, and then keep you a secret from her. If he couldn't afford a place on his own, why didn't he move in with a roommate? Sure it's tough, but it sounds like it took some time.
Even if what he was saying was true, he jumps from one girl to another without a second thought. From her to you to her in an instant. Is that what you would really want? If he was really concerned about her feelings while he was living with her, why didn't he wait to date someone?
My question is, is there any indication that he's changed at all? From what it sounds like, there doesn't seem to be.