I've been "hanging out" or "seeing" this guy for like 3 months. I recently found out he has a LDR. I want to clarify if it was all in my head or he was actually sort of cheating, even when we were not doing anythign sexual.
He would text me every day, randomly
He would complement
He would ask to hang out or study together
He would tickle and we would tickle fight like every time we hung out with each other
we'd nap next to each other
We had deep conversations.
Past relationship questions came up but he never mentioned his girlfriend. And he got defensive when I asked about his most recent relationwhip
We ate together
Overall, we spent a lot of time together and I developed feelings for him.
Why did he do this and is something like this a common thing?
Looking back, I see lots of red flags I ignored because I liked him and wanted things to work out so bad.
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it seems you were apparently the non-sexual girlfriend substitute since his girlfriend is far away.
since he didn't mention his relationship with that girl it is clear that he was leading you on, or at least lying by omission. I also think you are a bit at fault here, like you said you saw red flags but you blinded by your feeligns for him...saying you are a bit at fault here isn't a criticism because I've been in the same boat.
but he definitely led you on as he never mentioned while talking about relationship wtih you the one that he is currently in. If I were you I'd be pissed and if I were his girlfriend I'd be really pissed.0