insecurity issues, coupled w 5 years of psychotherapy - which he's still following - led to a number of arguments and misunderstandings, often ending up w me defending myself from random paranoid accusations. even then, I've always been there to talk, listen, understand. as soon as summer ended, even tho we still kept seeing each other on weekends (we're semi-longdistance), it felt like he didn't really want to communicate during working days. we usually had a 1h phone call before bed, very rarely some random text in the afternoon. and I'm not someone who calls or texts first that often. whenever I initiated contact in the past, he often cut it short.
lately he started saying he was always 'tired' from work, and didn't feel chatty. I told him I wished for more communication in general, a relationship cannot survive only on weekends, even if 'intense'. we were supposed to spend these last few days together, possibly going to a fair he invited me to. on Thursday, he came round my place, w/o his usual rucksack, just to 'talk'. end result: he's not sure if he wants to stay with me any longer. he's not sure if he's in love with me. he blamed me for having had sex "too soon", thus leading him to get "emotionally attached" to me "without knowing me properly", therefore he felt the relationship was built up more like a "flirt" than a serious one. he admitted he liked me phisically, but didn't like my character that much. all of a sudden it's all down to sex? I've also been accused of being "too alpha", that my assertivity made him feel constantly inferior. I felt crushed, confused, abused. he asked for "a few days" to think things through, "with the help of his therapist". I should wait for his decision, while still "being together" but w NC. he slept at my place, no sex, but he tried to initiate it several times and even bursted into tears once, while touching me, stating he felt guilty for "being unhappy" and "not knowing what he wanted". he stayed all Friday, I cried a lot, he tried to comfort me. he suggested to go together to that fair, but then changed his mind again and suddenly decided to go back to his place alone on Friday night, leaving things uncertain. only texted me once back, saying he would ring the next day. I called him right away, I wanted an answer about 'us', I felt played. he told me very rudely he had enough and that I should have just gone to bed and wait. that's when I decided to split. we went NC. now he's back on the dating site where we met. WTF?