I became extremely good friends with this girl, we could literally talk about anything, I was even more comfortable talking to her about issues or anything personal with her than any of my best friends and she was the same way. I ended up falling in love with her, didn't tell her because she said she wasn't ready for a relationship since she just got out of a really bad, I helped her through the breakup and a lot of the after math of it so I saw first hand just how much it affected her so I respected her not being ready to move on. She found a boyfriend a couple months later and fell in love with him, I stopped talking to her for almost 2 months because I just couldn't handle it. She was upset with me for obvious reasons and I wouldn't tell her why until I finally worked past the anxiety to tell her in person. We're still very good friends and even though I've been told it's best if she wasn't in my life, I still talk to her. I honestly think it would be wrong for me to push her out of my life like I tried before. I'm just not sure how to move on, even when I did shut her out I couldn't move on. I would feel guilty if I tried to have a relationship with someone else because she's on my mind so I just don't know what to do besides give it time even though it's been like 5 months since I've started to try to get over her.
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You'll move on when your heart is ready. Simple as that.
I'm in a similar situation. Best male friend, was friends for year, got super close, for a year at some point he began flirting, we were friends with benefits for a year, had some rocky patches but still close as 2 can be. I was coming out of a long relationship, as long as I've known him he says he didn't want a relationship he liked how things were. Then bam he's dating someone.
I never told him my feelings, assumed he knew. I never expected a relationship but doesn't hurt any less. I said friendship first so even though my heart is still breaking I never pushed him away. However at this point I say if he wants me in his life he'll make the effort to keep me there. He contacts me first 95% of the time.
Some think I need to let him go, but I can't. I've always wanted his friendship and he says he wants mine. He contact me pretty much every day. Maybe I'm hurting more by keeping him in my life but I need him and believe he needs me. My friendship sounds like it was much longer and maybe that makes it harder. I'm trying to move on but no one makes me feel the way he does. Hopefully one day someone will sweep me off my feet and I'll move on but I still want him I'm my life.
good luck my friend. I wish us both luck!1
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