NOTE/DISCLAIMER: I am NOT saying that ALL guys do this. There are women who truly are clingy and a crazy ex girlfriend and I feel sorry for all the men who had to deal with that shit. Also, given that I am a heterosexual woman, it's framed in a particular way. Anyone can be clingy, so switch the genders how you see fit.
What I'm talking about is when a guy calls you "clingy" just for wanting to talk and connect with him, or you are the "crazy ex gf" because he doesn't want to admit that he was all/partially to blame. This shit needs to stop.
To the guys: Did you ever think that maybe the reason your girl seems clingy is because she's frustrated and feels unappreciated since she's the one who has to constantly try to get you to communicate/get together with her? Did you ever think that maybe if you communicated with her more (especially on a deeper level) that the "clingy" behavior would lessen because she'd feel like you were initiating/connecting with her/appreciating her more?
I mean clingy behavior (again see disclaimer for differences) tends to come from the feeling that the other person isn't appreciating/reaching out to them enough. While it's important for a girl to control her feelings, that doesn't mean that they can't be a sign that the man has to step up his game more.
As someone who is a constant initiator, I know that I can feel that way. I wish guys would realize that instead of just dismissing a girl as "clingy" just so they don't have to try to understand her or put in any effort into working on themselves. Food for Thought.
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Well said! There are also lots of websites with advice for girls, don't be needy, don't be clingy, etc., well NO it's not all on HER alone. HER happiness matters too, and so I would encourage anyone to cut this mode of labeling and thinking ASAP - men and women must communicate and speak up to have their needs met.
And if you try and if you boyfriend or girlfriend comes back at you calling you needy or clingy, it's not YOU with the problem, maybe it's them? Maybe they're cold and insensitive? Maybe they don't know how to love.
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