So my friend from my old high school likes to come to the city and grab a drink. We have history together! During study hall time we'd sneak out and go behind the bathroom, make out and a little here and there. He was the first guy I lost my V to, when it was break I went to his house. Then we couldn't help ourself but got frisky. So anyway now were just "friends" because I have a boyfriend and he goes to college and the other guy Is OK now. So he tends to want to come to the city to grab a drink and hang out I said yes,then no then yes and my final answer was no. Because part of me gets this vibe every time I'm with him the past comes back floating around my head. And having him around makes me feel like I'm pushing my boyfriend aside. He got pissed I understand took a while to explain why but now he understood and all I got was an OK. I haven't heard from him after his last text. I don't want him to be mad at me. What do I do and did I do a bad thing by going back and fourth?
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No. Girl, when you told him no you did probably the smartest and best thing you could have done. You need to make the decisions that make you the most happy, and the least confused or self-conscious about your actions. Your past is a special thing, but you have to focus on people and things that can make your life wonderful and happy in the future. You won't be selfish if you follow that advice, and neither will you be dishonoring the wonderful past stories you have. It's okay to be confused, but it's also okay to make that decision your gut wants you to make. Listen to that gut! If it says "no way," there's almost always a very good reason for it, even if you don't know why yet.2