Since I had seen his FB, I knew who his ex-girlfriend (not same as baby mama) was. He first told me they broke up 6-9 months prior to meeting me. But I found out he was actually still with her a month before he met me. I didn't know how to confront him about that since he already felt a certain way about me seeing his FB. So I ignored it, plus she had a boyfriend at the time. A couple of months later, I noticed she was single again. I disregarded the possibility of her contacting my boyfriend again since I felt we were on good terms. Well later on in the month, I started getting strong negative gut feelings/instincts. My boyfriend would cancel our days and claimed he had things to do with his son. I had already met his son before and he said it was great because now we can do things all together in case he has him and its my only free day to see him. Well, that suddenly became an issue and he would cancel with me. I understand his son comes first, of course, but he contradicted himself based on what he said previously. His texts became less and less, and very vague. Yes he would still text me every morning as soon as he woke up... but our communication through out the day became less and he would suddenly text me "What's up" as opposed to "Hi my love", "Hi baby". I would call him since I hated just txting & suddenly started saying "You know I don't talk on the phone much". I continued to have strong negative feelings like something was off or something was going on.
One day while at home doing research for school. Something suddenly told me to check his FB again and see his friends. So I did and to my surprise, he was friends with his ex again. We were already txting so I randomly asked him what he would do if his ex came into his life. He said he would not talk to her and she had a boyfriend. He thought my question was random of course. So I said I know it was a long relationship and maybe she wanted to try again. He said he wouldn't be with her and was not looking for second chances. So I questioned him about suddenly adding her on FB. He blew up and said they were friends and only friends that he does not talk to her. that I'm a stalker for looking at his FB friends. That I'm insecure and crazy I the head assuming things. we got into a huge fight over it. in the end, he broke it off with me and insisted that she had a boyfriend and he respected that. that she is his ex for a reason, etc, etc. Well a few days later, he ended up changing his number and I saw on social media (again) that he was spending time with her.
So was I wrong to follow my gut feelings? I had no real proof of him already having something with her. Did I ruin things on my own?
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just give your boyfriend and yourself some time away from each other. I know that can be hard and I know you're hurting and want to try and talk things out right now but it will be the best thing for both of you. in the meantime I would spend some quality time alone and think about where you are in life and what you want. who knows maybe you might come to the conclusion that you're not ready for a relationship or your boyfriend was not what you wanted in a relationship, etc. take your time and take care.