As dumb as it sounds, at the age of 16 I started designing a house during graphics class and would continue doing so over the years. It was what I imagine we would live at someday.
Fast-forward to last year: Out of nowhere, she demands that we cease contact, how she's doesn't love me anymore and how the relationship has gotten stale. Here I am with my house project done after years of hard work and imagination but not the woman I wanted to be with. We go to the same college and she ignores me. I can't explain what I did wrong.
We saw each other just the other day, she looked quickly at me and turned the other way. How can someone just move on like that?
I can't even look at my house project anymore. I feel I did all that work for nothing.
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Man, that sucks. This is no consolation, except to say I feel for you. I was 21 when something similar happened to me. Never saw my ex-fiance past that time but stayed in touch with her on and off for years until a couple years ago she broke all ties with me. Broke my heart all over again. Like you, we were firsts, and I couldn't figure out why she broke things off 30 years ago. The pain lasted for years. Not sure it's really gone.
You did nothing wrong. She apparently had a change of heart. Unfortunately women do that. And they rip out guy's hearts in the process. (men too) They then keep their distance so we don't cry at their feet. They like strong men, not guy's who lose control and get emotional because they broke our hearts.
Given your history with her I'm guessing your break up will feel like yesterday for a number of years to come.
1. Try to move on. See if you can get help from someone to talk it out. There will be another girl out there for you and your house.
2. If you see her again, see if she's willing to give you 5 or 10 minutes to talk. Be mature about it. Non-threatening, positive, "strong" like someone she'd be intersted in, "non-stale" (give it some thought), see what she's been thinking, if anything; perhaps see if she'd be willing to meet for 30 minutes sometime, and SET an appointment.1
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