I really want to move in with my girlfriend but we both cannot afford it. I work a temp job for a bank and make 11.50 and hour plus another retail job at 10.44 an hour. She works as a camp counselor year round and makes 9.50 an hour. We cannot afford to live together working full time. We always talk about moving in together, getting married and starting a family. I want to start towards this. Now I am planning on become a stock trader and am very serious with my current employer about this, I want to be able to afford to move in with her. Now she hates the job she is in and always has to pick up her bosses slack, Her mom and I have talked about her getting a new job as a bank teller which pays starting around 13 an hour and upward potential from there on. I don't know how to bring this up to my girlfriend without making her upset or mad. She wants to move somewhere with me and us both progressing in our jobs will ensure that. I don't know what to say to her. My point with her is that for us to achieve what we want, we have to work for it. Please, ladies, what would you think or want to hear for your man if this was your situation? I just want us to achieve what we want and I'm at a loss on what to do.
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You should really tell her that if you really wanna work this out. You are gonna be really honest about what you want and all that. You could even say that she doesn't worth the hours she waste on the job she has and hates to do and she deserves a better job for a netter pay such as a bank teller. Tell her made.up scenarios for you two about her becoming a bank seller. Mention the schedules and how much higher the pay can be. Say that if she ever got a job like that you guys would easily move in together both having a good job and not actually hating what you do. This way you could say that you guys should have a more improved, deeper relationship than ever before. You'll get to deal with each others' flaws daily and at the end of the day appreciate those flaws.
Making sound tempting - not to fool her and to give her a dreamy speech for.what she wants to hear but show her that you really want this to happen!0