So I changed departments and our morning breaks went away. We began to arrive to work at the same time, meet in the lobby and , ride the elevator up together talking. This happened 2-3 times a week at least. She even asked me one morning if I had changed up my morning break time, which I hadn't. I said no have you and she gave this coy smile and was like yes I've been coming in later, which also was not true because she was riding the elevator up with me. My immediate thought was she playing games?
So I will occasionally back off of her and change up my routine so not to see her as much. I will also not go out of my way to pay attention to her other than to say hi in passing. I know this bothers her and I can predict every time I do this she will come looking for me trying to get a read on me. Like find an excuse to come into my department. I recently did this for a couple weeks and new that she was going to do something. So my buddy tells me that she has been arriving and leaving the same time as him (walking and talking like her and I have always done) and how it was creeping him out. They have never done this before, and It made me jealous. Coincidence? So I start talking to her again and she does not walk and talk with him the past two weeks. Coincidence?
So I don't know what this girl wants from me. I am pretty sure she does not want a relationship, or does not want to act on any feelings towards me, although sometimes I feel like maybe she has a crush on me. I also feel like neither of us plan on acting on feelings, but that we both just want to know that the other one likes us? Because I feel like we both are constantly testing each other. Is this normal? Thoughts other than she's married stay away?
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Some girls and guys have developed the idea that if they are attracted to somebody, but they are married, then they can still be friends, and there will be no harm in it. While you two may be smart enough not to act on these feelings, they can leave feeling a little confused many times because the next logical step that a "couple" would take, you two shouldn't.
I would suggest talking to her and getting a little of this on the table and make sure that it's just innocent. If it is, then you could be good friends, as long as you both have no intentions on acting on it. She may even be your "work spouse"...look it up if you don't know. However I would remind you of one thing, just because you two have it worked out doesn't mean your actual spouses will understand, so it doesn't mean that you won't have some other trouble down the road.
It is turns out that one or both of you really do want to act on these feelings, you better run, as there is NO WAY that a romance at work will turn out good for either of you!0