I broke up with my ex of 4 years who cheated on me. My sister was the one I talk to about it so she knows about it. Her husband knows about it because he was around when it happened. When I try to talk to my sister she sighs and acts like I'm bothering her when I bring up the fact that my ex cheated on me. I haven't been able to talk too anyone about my feelings they just want me to suppress them. One time she asked me if I thought he had cheated on me during that time we were broken up but I was still in love with him so I said No. I felt like she knew but was just asking to see what if I thought he had or not. I feel that her husband told her about my ex cheating on me and she knew the whole time. They act as if nothing now and my ex comes by and they hang out with him. My sister even had told me that his friends had wanted him to break up with me. She admitted that one time that her husband had told her. The reason why I think she knew is because now my ex has a new girlfriend and they know I broke up with him because he cheated on me. Yet they tell me to keep hush on it. My sister still talks to him and now has become friends with his girlfriend. Yet her knowing the way my ex is has told me that it's my fault and she defends my ex for what he did. My dad had cheated on my mom and left us and I talked with my sister about it and she said my mom should have tried harder. My mom was a single mom and raised us all by herself. Yet my sister feels she should have tried harder for my dad to stay but my dad is still a cheater until this day. I don't get my sister and quite frankly I don't trust her and her husband anymore. They seem so hypocritical her husband even told me that next time I get another boyfriend to come to him so he meet them. Yet he likes my ex regardless of him cheating on me. I don't get them why do they say one thing yet say another thing. Now my ex's girlfriend knows nothing about all these betrayals and my sister and her husband are just acting as like my ex is the best guy. What the hell is going on?
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Wow, family huh? Those people are idiots for blaming you for that. As you said, he cheated, there should be no reason to be with him after that. I don't know, but maybe confide in the new girlfriend, but that is a risk, as she may take it to the others to make you look bad. Hard to say.
What may be going on is that they look past the fact he cheated on you, cause of how he is. Charismatic people have a tendency to make people look past infractions and make another look bad. As far as how she sees what happened with your parents, that's probably just ignorance and denial. In fact it sounds like all around ignorance between all of the parties involved, save you. You seem to be the smart one.
Personally, I would just drop the negative out of your life. If that means cutting ties with that part of your family, then by all means do it. A person doesn't need that kind of stress in their life. Removing the negative will help out. That or have a serious discussion with your sister about it, and if she refuses to hear you out then she's just being stubborn and mean.0
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