I've never been in a relationship before but have been dating this rather 5-6 in looks guy (this isn't just me saying but other noticed this too, even my male cousin) for several weeks now and well he does wear braces, is slightly overweighted and is bookish.
I can tell he doesn't seem like the type that has ever gone to a party before. But OK that's not important. Though we do click on everything else, I'm not too much physically attracted to him but I think this will come in time I guess. I'm scared of leaving this guy and later on getting cheated on, mistreated, etc.
The reason is because several of my female family members have been cheated on several times. My uncle had a long time affair and it devastated the whole family. Apart from that, many men nowaday sleep around like crazy if a pretty girl were to come up to them. For sure they would take that chance.
So yes, I will continue dating that guy. If I get into a relationship with him, does this mean it's very unlikely I'll get cheated on. Protecting myself from players, getting my heart stomped and experiencing what I've been seeing in my surroundings is what comes in my mind first.
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There are good looking guys a plenty that are "one women" only guys but the thing is, they can be tough to find. If a guy looks good, he may want to enjoy a variety of women before settling down is all and there's nothing wrong with that. This would be a lot easier for men if more women had mature viewpoints on sex though. Too many women have the "I'm a whore if I have uncommitted sex" attitude which is why a lot of guys go on the dates, have sex, then dump the girl rather than coming out in the open and saying "Let's have sex" because all that will do most of the time is cause the guy to get called a pig and so on. It's not wrong that women choose to only have sex in a relationship, it's all the childish outbursts and ridicule they try to give just because they wanted a guy to date them and found out he just wanted to hook up.
Also keep in mind that even though the looks may not be there, he could have good sexual techniques. Like a sub-par looking guy who is good at oral sex for many women would easily be chosen over the good looking guy who skips foreplay, sticks it in, and calls it a night.
While looks aren't everything, they matter for many and if you feel you can't develop an attraction to him physically and it is interfering with your dating then sure, end it after trying. Ignore your friends' opinions though because honestly, it's your relationship, not theirs. If you don't want to get cheated on, just avoid the good looking guys who are cocky. Those are the ones who will cheat on you. Heavily look into the differences between cocky and confidence. If the guy's all like "I can get any woman I want," prove him wrong and tell him he can't have you because that's the guy who will cheat on you.0