I met a guy I really like a little while ago. We live in different states, so we didn't get a lot of time to actually hang out after initially meeting. We've gotten to know each other mostly over the phone and through text, although I did go visit him for a weekend once since we met. The weekend went really well, we were intimate for the first time, and we talked about wanting to see each other again. Unfortunately, he's just been deployed for 6 months, so we aren't going to get a chance to see each other soon. We talked and text up until he left, and I got one email from him since he's been over there, but he said that most of the time they don't get a good internet connection. I'm still hoping to keep in contact with him as much as possible.
At the same time though, there is a guy from home town that I dated this past summer before I met this new guy. My ex/friend (it didn't end badly) recently got in touch with me and wants to take me out. I know we would probably end up having a good time and most likely sleeping together because of our history. We broke up because ex is not looking for a serious relationship right now.
Is it okay for me to go out with my ex again even if it's just to hang out once? I really like this new guy, and I think he likes me, so I don't want to jeopardize anything we might have in the future, but at the same time, we haven't said we are dating yet, and who knows what will happen when he gets home. I am somewhat of a goody-two-shoes and really only ever dated one guy at a time, so I've never faced this kind of thing before. What do you think?
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Well it's definitely not cheating since you aren't in a relationship. As for whether it's "right or wrong" I don't think you're doing anything wrong by hooking up with your ex if you choose. If the new guy had really been ready to commit, he would've done it before he left. You really have no idea if you'll talk to him much at all, or where things will be in 6 months. There are no guarantees now that he's left and kept your relationship in limbo. Since you're not keeping in frequent contact, I don't feel it's all that serious.
My only hangup would be if you were simultaneously sleeping with both of them at the same time, but since new guy is gone for half a year, you won't be.0