if an ex clearly tells you things and let you know that the guy has been talking to her, why do some of you fall in denial when you already knew it was true but he just kept lying to you?
How come some girls are indenial when a guy clearly is cheating?
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There are multiple things in play here. And some stereotypes, regardless of how true they might be, you might find offensive at this point. So read on at your own risk.
1. Ego: The present girlfriend cannot let the ex-girlfriend win. This is a competition woman to woman. She wants to show a united front (her and her Boyfriend vs. Ex) She cannot look doubtful of her man in front of another woman. If her Boyfriend is contacting his ex, it is a knock against her (she is not as good a woman as his ex.)
2. Self-delusion: Women are often guilty of lying to themselves, especially about men and how much they are loved by them. She cannot allow herself to be devalued or her love of her man devalued by accusation(see #1). This is just a test of our love. We are destined to be together. Everything the ex said is a lie. I can change him. He doesn't really know how much I love him.
3. Secrecy: If such accusations are true she would like to correct them privately. She will be checking his phone records, email and Facebook postings as soon as the conversation is over. If anything is true she will confront him alone and when she feels in control of the situation. If there is a break up she will be the one doing it (see #1).
4. Stuff: If there is a break up she will want to be on top of it, to make sure that she can get the valuable items out of the apt. first, even if they belong to him. Therefore he cannot have any forewarning through any word of mouth via any 3rd person. Denial at that point can serve her well.
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