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Parenting is one of the most difficult things in the world, especially when the parents have problems with each other. I have 2 kids, ages 5 and 11, girls.
Like you, we're broke. I live with family members so they can live in our house. We've never taken vacations like our neighbors do. My kids question why. Income. Incomes. Explain that to a kid. That's life. My wife does a great job of taking care of them without me around now. Does it come easy? Hell no. Is it natural? No. She just does it. We both just do it. Does it take patience? Every damn minute of every damn day. Parent's relationships affect the kids. We hope to fix ours. Not sure if we can.
Advice? Great mom? I don't know any. I just know mom's who "are" moms. Most mom's do their best. Some make it look easy, but that's always from the outside. At night I'm sure they collapse just like every other mom, and wonder if they're doing the right thing.
I think the best advice I can offer is something my wife has impressed upon me. I suffer chronic daily migraines; have for 30 years. They've ruined my life, and my marriage. No matter how bad you feel, no matter how down you feel, no matter how crappy things are going in your life, do not let it show to your kids. So it's our job to love them and support them and set good examples. Changing my behavior so there's is good is the hardest thing I've ever had to do, especially when I feel like shit, as if on my death bed. But it's no longer about me. It's ALL about them now. It's ALL about them. That doesn't mean we spoil them to make them happy. That means we set good examples and instill good values as to what's right and what's wrong in behaviors. Both theirs and ours.
Plus we have to have fun with them, LOTS of fun with them, and be kids with them. We actually have to go back and think like a kid when we're playing with them and dealing with them.
It's ALL about THEM.
Hope this helps.1