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Stop letting them influence you. I think your assessment of their fear of letting go is spot on. You can have discussions with them about your decisions and ask for their input, but you sound a lot more reasonable than they do, so don't let them get to you too much. Don't buy too much into the whole "you shouldn't have a boyfriend while you're in college"-thing. It's bull. Saying you can't prioritize your studies while you're in a relationship is like saying you can't prioritize your job while you're in a relationship, which would mean that your parents shouldn't be together right now. They're just scared, and they're using standard arguments to hide from their fears.