I think I have finally come to grips with this now which I think is crucial to my recovery from this breakup. Me and my ex were together for a year, we are both 20, love birds, soulmates all of that stuff. We used to just tell eachother how sure we were that we would be together forever, we went to Paris after 2 months and then on another holiday to Turkey 2 months later. We truly were loved up and inseperable, we did everything together, spoke every day 4/5 times a day without fail, if we wasn't on the phone we was texting eachother so it was properly intense. I mean it may sound like we was both clingy but I don't think it was that, we just enjoyed eachother's company.
Fast forward to now 5 weeks after she broke up with me and I think I have finally come to grips with the situation. My ex didn't exactly treat me like crap and cheat on me or anything but she did used to treat me as if I could be replaced easily. When we would have small arguments or disagreements she would break up with me only to apologise the next day saying she didn't mean it.This happened on average every week for the last 2 months of our relationship. She would often say there are loads of guys out there who can treat her better than me etc and just used to act is if I was expendable. She often used to say that when she met me she had options as loads of guys were trying to date her and how if it wasn't me it would have been someone else etc. I'm a pretty laid back and mellow guy so I never got angry or upset I would always just take things light heartedly but looking back some of the things that used to go on were not right. The whole reason we broke up in the first place was because she said in the future if I don't earn more she won't marry me, I didn't agree, didn't get angry either just stated that love means more and you collate salaries so why should it matter. She wanted to cuddle after saying this and I wasn't in the mood so was just on my phone, she then got extremely angry broke up with me, insulted me, saying she's on a different intelligence level to me, saying I'm immature saying were not compatible anymore etc. After dumping me she then blocked me on everything possible, Facebook, whatsapp etc.
I went through the trenches of emotions in the first week, I never wanted her back or missed her but the way she blocked me and cut of contact, deleted all our pictures of Facebook within a day got to me. She said when she dumped me she wants no contact for 6 weeks but messaged after 2 weeks of no contact saying she feels ready to speak to me and wants to see how I'm coping. At the time I didn't reply but I genuinely just thought this was her trying to get me back as she has done multiple times before, I think I made myself believe that so I could feel wanted and like I was worth something. We were together for a year and she just got rid of me just like that...
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Okay well first of all... no person in this entire world can define your worth. You are worthy just like everyone else. I understand your feelings right now because I've been there. I'm sure this isn't what you want to hear but I'll say it anyway. You are young. You have your whole life ahead of you and the truth is, not too many people find their soulmate at such a young age anymore. The world has changed, people have changed. The younger generations are taking a significantly longer time to fully mature. And I can tell that she's got a lot of growing up to do if she feels the need to constantly remind you that she has guys standing in line at her door just waiting to date her. If that's all she can talk about then maybe she should go out with them... she will soon see that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. It still takes work and you can't run from the problems or else you'll be alone forever. So when you have love you keep it, you cherish it...
My advice to you is to be happy for the amazing experience she gave you. She showed you that you are capable of love and finding that connection with another person. To be honest, it's a hard thing to come by and at times I've even thought to myself "will I ever feel that connection with someone again?" But I will.. It took me a long time to realize that though. You should block her phone number if she is going to insult you like that. I do have a feeling she will continue to come back to you and when that time comes you will have moved on if you listen to your gut. You know what you need to do.. because if you didn't you wouldn't be here asking. I think you just need validation and a place to vent rather than feeling that you've won something by rejecting her. I also know that one day in your future you will look back on this and will laugh..3