Once, a long time ago, I tried very hard to fix things with an ex. All it got me was a lot of heartache and wasted effort. Granted she had cheated on me with her ex so, in a way, it was my mistake. However, ever since then I refused to chase after a girl. If we got into a fight or there was some misunderstanding I wouldn't even bother if they stopped talking to me. I believed that if they truly liked me then they would come back. However, while I haven't been very stressed, it has left me very much single. I have seen friends of mine do what I had done a while back and manage to remain with their significant other.
The main reason why I ask is because, just recently, the usual has occurred. I honestly don't know exactly what had her cut communication with me, but I have some hunches. From what I've been told it's a combination of her stress and being afraid of getting hurt and what not. Like I said, I don't know. That's just what my female friends have said. Usually I would cut my losses but this girl is definitely special. This also seems like one of those moments where I should actually chase after her. What should I do, and how would I even chase after her?
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I say go after her. Yes you've been hurt in the past, but like you said it was partly your mistake and you've learned from it, much like all pain we should never hide from it, we accept it and learn from it. If this girl is special to you or even worth a second thought, why not see what happens? especially in the case where communication is spontaneously cut off, if things don't work out you'd just go back to not talking.
Usually in life we're only unhappy because we choose to make ourselves unhappy, I vote for happiness and whatever could come of this.
I'd say just walk up to her or text her and say hi. ask her how she's doing and then bring up how you haven't spoken in a while and that you're confused as to what happened. Just open up that window of communication and see where things go, and be honest the entire time.1
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