Really really long story short me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up 4 weeks ago, this was the first major relationship either one of us had ever been in she is 19 I am 21. We broke up because she said the she felt like the feelings she had for me had changed, I agreed with her to an extent but the breakup was more her idea than it was mine. Anyways I've been thinking a lot during this past month and I've taken time to branch out, hanging out with new people and taking time to enjoy myself and I feel that I am in a much stable mind set than what I was much after we first broke up. So I've been thinking about texting her asking if she would want to meet up and maybe talk over lunch or something like that. Thing is that neither one of us have talked to or texted each other since the break up. From what a bunch of people have told me if I'm the one that text her first ill be giving her all the power and itll make me look weak. I understand this but I figure heck what do I have to lose, I'm at a spot where I'm pretty happy with my life but I still think about her from time to time and I'm just interested as to what her feelings are now that she's had time to think as well. if she turns me down then oh well Ill just put it behind me and forget about it. So my main question is if there's anyway I can be the one to contact her first without putting her in a position where she has the power, Or is there a way I could get her to be more interested in meeting up with me.
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well ,hear me my friend , you are the one who knows how close and in love you guys were , so if you believe that what you guys had deserves another chance , then yes go for it , in the end it is one life that we will have , and what is the loss if she rejected you ? nothing , but that at least you will know that you did your very best and that you once tried real love , but I suggest that you try to know if she is seeing someone else or not , if not , go with your heart and contact her , if I were you I would do that , don't hesitate :) , and send her something nice , like a video you find funny and tell her '' hey ... I felt that you would like that :D check it '' , if she replied in a positive way then go for it , and by this idea even if she just replied with ''yes, nice '' you wouldn't look so ugly ;) , you get the trick ?! :D , do that and please please tell me what happened , cause I have been there and it worked for me real good :D0