I'm dating a man who was married with a child. The x wife is older than me but it seems as though she is having issues with me dating her xhusband. I have been wanting to meet the x wife so we can all get on friendly terms since we will be involved with the daughter. The x wife decided that she didn't want to do it but her daughters birthday is coming up. The x wife told my boyfriend that she didn't want me there. I wasn't planning on going but for her to say that months away I feel she is taking it personal. She has said that she has come to terms with her x husband dating but I feel that she really hasn't. I told my boyfriend that if the x wants all of us to be on good terms so the daughter sees everyone is getting along. The xwife is going to have to meet me and start getting to know me.
Am I wrong?
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You are not necessarily "wrong" but she doesn't have to abide by your terms, you have to abide by her wishes when dealing with her daughter. Maybe she hasn't come to terms with her ex-husband dating. But regardless, it's her daughter and while your boyfriend may be okay with the daughter meeting you, his ex-wife may not be okay with it, at least not yet.
These things can be complicated and difficult sometimes. You're dating a man with an ex-wife and a daughter with that ex-wife. You pretty much don't have a say in anything when it comes to the daughter. All you can do is relax, spend time with your boyfriend, and let the ex-wife become more comfortable with the thought of you dating her ex-husband.
It may take some time but you can't push it or pressure her into letting you into her daughter's life. She should come around eventually but like I said, it's not something you should put pressure on. Some divorced parents are VERY protective when it comes to their children meeting their exes new boyfriends/girlfriends, as they should be.0
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