We both share some unique interests and perspectives, and she is drop-dead gorgeous but I heard from a mutual friend that she is single now, as I sort of expected because all though I'm sure lots of guys hit on her, she also had the sort of personality that drives men away ( fickle, preachy, stubborn, shopaholic). I am wondering now if maybe she has changed some with these other guys being practice. She dumped me because she said I was condescending, and because I lied about where I was from when we first met. Most of the time I didn't mean to come across that way, but I can understand why I do now, and make a conscious effort not to.
So here's my chance. I want to call her up. I know she's lonely, but I know her first instinct will be to hang up. In the past if there was an issue she wouldn't hear me out, she'd just run, or just grumble and pretend to listen. I do think we have a lot in common and could have a great future, if I can have just one shot I know she'd see this right away but her first instinct will be hatred and distrust. I want her to approach this with an open mind, just to see what happens but I am scared because if I don't get it right the first time I can't keep calling!
Is there anything I can say to disarm her, get her to relax a bit? Anyone have any positive stories about reconciling with exes? How did they bring up the idea of dating again? What made you reconsider? What would scare you away?