I dated a women for 10 months and then she broke up with me because she said she never loved me and therefore thought the relationship was going nowhere.
Maybe she was right, but did try to get her back but to no avail.
It's been over a year and yet I still think about her, almost every day.
I think one problem may be that she and I are in the same circle. I have seen here and there, although I have been trying to avoid her and I haven't seen her in almost 6 months.
Should I leave the circle of friends who have a connection with her? I think my friends know if she is dating someone and won't tell me to protect me. Perhaps it is better this way?
I feel as though it is only a matter of time before I run into her and new guy she is with.
Any suggestions as to how get out of this pickle and move on with my life?
What do I do, however, about attending events where she may be?
Maybe just stay away, for my own sanity?
It just pissed me off that I saw her with that other guy. After all, he hit on her and she never actually went out with him (so, I hear), so maybe I jumped the gun.
Either way, this is all sad.
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Don't leave the circle of friends if they are good friends and tey value them.
I assume, have they been there for you?
Losing friends you would like to keep is not worth it in the long run.
If she is with someone new, then there is not much that can be done about it.
Maybe it is better if your friends don't talk about it if it is the case. But if you ask them they shouldn't lie to you.
But equally, probably just don't ask.
Maybe you will see her in the street, or somewhere you go. Maybe you will see her with someone else.
It could just be a make friend, it could be someone she is seeing.
Try not to dwell on it too much. Will the energy you put into thinking what if change anything?
Or make you feel worse?
I know it is easier said than done.
Try not to look at her Facebook. If you do go to do it, think about it then don't.
You could easily see a photo which is just her and a friend and then your mind could race.
If you bump into her, then put on a brave face and a smile and just say hi.
You don't have to stop to talk to her. If it is in a social setting, be polite, but again, just talk to someone else. Act confident, smile and try and enjoy your freinds company.
Just by knowing she will think your having a laugh and not bothered by her being there will make you feel better. Almost like a one up. Yeah you moved on, but look, I'm fine! Even if it is not quite the case.
By asking us how you can move on and improve how you feel shows you want to. And you are ready too. And that, is a great start.
Get out, see your mates. Talk to some new girls.
Do you have a mum or dad? If you do and you have a good relationship, go up to them and say your still sad about the break up. Say you are finding it hard to move on but you want to. Just talking about it with someone you can trust may heko you feel a bit better even if they offer no solution. If you don't have parents talk to your best and most trusted friend.
Go out and do the things you enjoy. If you have hobbies go and do them.
Spend some time out in nature and the countryside, a short walk and fresh air on your own can help clear your thoughts.
There is no overnight solution to make you feel better.
Unfortunately it can take time. But if you constantly let your self think about her and what if she is with someone new gets no where and becomes unhealthy.
Everytime you start to think like this remind your self you want to move on and feel happier.
Tell your self you will move on and be happier. Tell yourself it could take time but it will happen.
When you liked someone it can take a long time to feel alright again, so you just need to do things you like, have a laugh with mates and try and turn your thoughts around to positives and cut out the ones that are toxic to your life.
One day you will realize you feel better, and will be ready to meet someone new.
And perhaps one day when the feelings for her are gone you could be freinds. Perhaps not.
Good luck xx0