Well I need some advice my partner and I don't live together but have bn dating for 8yrs. We have bn trying for a baby for 4 years on and off now. Last wk he said his mate was having some problems and is coming to stay for a few days. His mate now tells me 2 wks later he is moving in. I spoke to my boyfriend last night and told him I won't to have a baby and to live together as I get fustrated with nothing happening. I feel like I'm wasting time and he said it will happen when it happens and I can move in too if I wanted too.My point is I'm sick of living alone and feeling used when we have sex as I have to leave and see him days or wks later even tho we are trying to concieve. I just want things to progress and there not. What should I do? I've already spoke to him Because I was so upset. What shld I do now? Shld I continue trying or find someone who wants to actually be with me more. I really love my boyfriend tho.
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it's really odd that you guys have been together for 8yrs and haven't lived together and only see each other every few weeks. to me this shows a lack of commitment.
It is also strange that you two would be trying to have a baby without living together or getting married. It seems like steps are being skipped.
I think the relationship needs to take a few steps forward before you really even try to get pregnant with his child. you two should be seeing each other more often, you should really consider whether or not marriage is the next step and at least whether or not you two should live together.
In America in most states that have common law marriage statutes the two of you would almost be considered married by the government. I say this to say that you two really should be coming to some point in deciding whether or not you are going to spend your lives together and take steps towards that goal0