Quite a complicated story, but I had dated a gal off and on for over a year. The first time we tried, it was long distance, since she lived in my home town two hours away. The distance itself made it difficult and our friendship fizzled out after six months.
We hooked up a couple times afterward, but yet again, more frustration and heartache. This time, I had a feeling her ex of five years was somewhere in the background, as she started talking about him more and more. She ended up rooming with his brother, whom she said was good friends with. This I wasn't comfortable with, so I left the picture once again.
4 months goes by without any contact, and by this time, I've moved back home. I broke the ice, and we started talkng again. We hung out for a good month and I got nothig but good vibes from her. She even asked me if I saw a future with her and I said yes. Hey why not give it a shot? I ended up leaving town for work for a week, and she started acting distant. Tried calling and sending a few texts, but got nothing but boring responses. I sensed something was wrong. I got back hime and had to remind her of plans we made, and she accused me of making a big deal out of it and throwing a fit, like I've done in the past apparently. These "fits" come from these mixed signals she's given me in the past. This recent miscommunication was the deal breaker and now she wants nothing to do with me.
Ok, a few weeks have passed and still no communication. A few attempts at talking to her have failed and all she kept saying was that she wasn't feeling anything for me. Really don't undrstand her logic. It sounds like there's more to it than that. Do I give ger space and let her come to me, or just walk away? I don't know what to think. Please help!
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give her space. she sounds like she's rather hot and cold and in turn you ask for more because you want, when she's acting cold and distant, to know that she has the feelings you seem to have for her.
but at some point the feelings have to just be there without any provocation. At this point I'd essentially cut the cords. It sounds like she's the type of person to be all in for something at first but slowly pull away...that doesn't sound like the greatest situation for a relationship.0