Ok. So I am dating a girl and she has this friend (male co worker). They've had sex before and she insists they are just friends now and nothing more or less. She tells me she loves me and so on.
Anyway, this guy like her and I know it, but she says she wants me so it doesn't matter. So on Valentine's Day this guy sent her some roses to work marked as anonymous. I knew who it was right off the bat, but she acted as though she didn't and when she found out she was like he's just my friend. Friend does things like that. And was babbling about how her mother had male friends to do similar things in the past.
I never liked this guy because he would call or text at certain times of the night when we're hanging out. She would let me read the messages, but still. It's the principle. So I have basically been letting a lot slide.
After the roses thing I was very pissed and told her to make sure she tells him to not text or call her unless it's work related and before a certain time. So now she is telling me that she had a conversation with him and told him how I felt disrespected and so on.. And saying, she loves me and this and that and the other. She assured me it wouldn't happen again and if it did then I would have a reason to come with an ultimatum. I have had it. I'm sick and tired of letting things slide. I gave her a choice, either what I said about the only work related contact thing or lose me and she has stayed firm to not do it. So I guess we're not going to be together.
I want to know am I overreacting? Should I breakup with her for this thing? I dealt with the nighttime phone calls and text and she knows I never liked it. And now the roses thing.
So should I stick to my guns and breakup with her or not?
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There are a few things you need to consider here... First of all, respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy. Anyone who robs you of the joy in your heart is not a friend. So with that being said, I would still stick it out with this girl, She is not the problem, that guy is. But, if she does not realize that this bothers you, that it frustrates you, that it is a kick to the junk of your manhood, she is not your friend either. Women know how to send the back-off signal to guys, if she doesn't send that signal out early and often for you, what kind of friend is that? You can play it cool, be confident that she is telling you the truth and that will actually set her mind at ease, but it will also open the door for any guy to come on in and chat her up when ever you're not around. You can be the best guy around but eventually that girl is going to find someone better than you if you don't implement some kind of agreement. Here you go, buy yourself some flowers, have the chick at the store write the card out to you. Leave them out in your house for her to see, when she asks... "Oh, just a friend from work, you know..." Watch how the double standard does not work for her.1