I know, it's silly, why would a 19 year old cry over some girl - it's such as girl thing to do ... but, it's been uncontrollable.
She broke up with me because of me: I took out my anger I had for my ex friend on her and said things I never meant. I was infuriated with my ex friend because he was racist to a close friend of mine.
During the first 4 weeks after the BU, I caught her staring at me and looking away immediately a few times, and so did my friends.
I cut contact with her immediately, expecting to get over her in a month or so. It's been 2 and I seriously, seriously can't stop thinking about her.
I've tried everything, NC, dating other girls, taking time off the dating scene, sports, etc ... NOTHING has worked.
Our relationship was short (1 month or so) but VERY intense.
2 weeks before we broke up she had invited me over to meet her parents over dinner. She left for the loo and her parents told me how much she would talk about me and how they thought that she had seriously fallen for me.
Christmas period was terrible for me for two reasons:
1. I was thinking about her so much (you already know that).
2. On the 13 th of December I was attacked my ex friend for no reason whatsoever. After a night out he had sprayed me with deodorant and a lighter right at my face. I hit him in self defence.
I learnt quite recently that he'd lied to every one in my old dorm (I've moved since then) including my ex who believes him (they're "great" friends now).
I texted her asking why she disliked me so much and wouldn't talk to me and she said "Because you hit him [ex friend] when he asked you to leave" which is the BIG LIE.
I don't know what to do. I obviously still love my ex ... I want her back. She's showed me signs she at least misses me.
What do I do?
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ask her to meet you for lunch somewhere. probably a public place so she doesn't feel awkward. tell her you just want to talk. that there are things you really think need to be cleared up and a lot of misinformation being spread.
hopefully she will be up for this and you can sort of have a calm, rational conversation about things. tell her the way you've been feeling, how things with your "ex-friend" really went down.
however, if she doesn't want to meet up or doesn't want to talk then you just kind of have to move forward. being upset and crying over a girl isn't a "girl" thing to do it's the kidn of thing a person does when they are upset over losing something. it's just called having emotions. If she won't talk/meet with you, you'll just kind of have to accep that there will be a bit of a tough time going forward but you'll get over her0