My ex and I dated for oberst a year and a half, we hit it off very quick, she was my dream girl and me her guy, I moved in very fast, we were inseparable. Around 6 months ago I lost my job, started drinking a lot, work side jobs here and there, it got to the point drinking took over me, I was relying on my girlfriend to take care of me including borrowing money for rent. It escalated even more to the point were I was taking money to buy beer while she worked, she would come home and I would be drunk and lie about taking money. (Mega dick bag boyfriend I was). We'll we would have talks about me changing and I would say I would, never did, until finally she had enough! She broke up with me, I quickly changed, got sober (day 32 now), got a job and have started paying her back. We only went a week without talking and I brought up possibly reconciling at some point, she said she wouldn't be talking to me if she wasn't interested. We continued to talk, see eachother, she is smiley and her texts messages border flirty. Last week, I poured my emotions out and she said she sill has bitter feelings towards me, but her actions say other wise, she wants to be friends and I voiced my concern about either one of us drifting apart, she said it's a risk we have to take. She even invites me over to take care of my acne (strange but true), even when my face is clear she takes it as a time to get a little closer, then she plays it off as if 'someone has to take care of it.' All of her past boyfriends have cheated on her and a friend of hers said that she is just wanting to see if I'll change, which I have very very much considering where I was over a month ago. So my question, do girls break up with guys they do want to be with, in hope they actually do change? And I know I can't bring up relationship talk with her, but I want to move forward with the process of reconciling, even though she says she's hurt, her actions say other wise! PLEASE HELP!
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No man. They don't do that. They break up to get away for whatever reason. Maybe cuz they don't love you but in this case it sounds like it was your alcoholism. She told you she was bitter? That's the nail in the coffin dude. Maybe you're lucky and she'll get over it because she's open minded and has seen you've changed. My experience tells me that she won't. She's going to be too damn bitter and resentful of you. She'll always be pissed off at you.
You can try going after her for a month and see where it goes. I'm telling you- if you don't have her by then, it's over. Personally, I don't keep ex's as friends for the reasons you've exemplified. It makes this confusing and keeps up hope... you start questioning things... better to just move on.1