So I had been with this girl for 4 months. I won't get into all the details but best relationship I had ever had. She had recently gotten out of a long term relationship but we grew really close. After 3 months I moved home from college and she still has like 1 year left. I would visit her as much as possible and things were great. Then out of nowhere she said that "something was missing" and we talked and talked and talked. Our timing was bad. We ended it but as I was leaving she kissed me just like nothing was wrong. Then she said "I'd like to meet up down the road". I asked what she meant by that and she said to meet up and talk about things and possibly revisiting things. I was confused by that.
About 10 days later she went out on a date with a guy that seems to go for all my exs. She didn't know that but I was kinda hurt. I had been having a rough time with things so I wrote a note and said that I had fallen in love with her because I never told her and I just needed to get it off my chest. She was kind of speechless and I know it meant something to her. She did say "I'm not going to wait around until that one day that we meet back up, I'm going to go on dates if I'm asked". I completely understand that. I don't know what the status of her and this guy that she went on a date with and I'm sure I don't wanna know.
So thats the general situation without every tiny detail. So what I'm asking is: is there any hope to get her back? And how long until I contact her? Its been a month since we ended it and 2 weeks since I wrote her that note and last spoke to her. This girl meant more to me than any other, and I fell hard for her.
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I think what's happening here is that, coming out of the long term relationship, she just wasn't emotionally ready for the type of relationship the two of you would have had, had you kept seeing each other. Judging by the details you gave, it sounds like the two of you probably would have been together for a long time, and perhaps would have been serious. She probably just wanted to date around for a bit, before getting into another serious relationship. This guy that she went on a date on may just be someone for her to fill her time with, but not necessarily someone she could fall in love with.
I definitely think that there is hope in this situation. If she didn't want to ever see you again, she probably wouldn't say that she would want to revisit in the future (I mean unless she was a real jerk!!!) Sometimes people, especially those who have been hurt or just came out of a long term relationship, just need extra time to figure out their feelings for another person, and usually, this means dating other people. To be honest, I'm not sure when would be the right time to contact her again, but I definitely think that there is hope for you to get her back :)0