Most Helpful Girl
Sweetie, no, you absolutely did the right thing in texting tom a goodbye. This was what he most likely was egging you on to do all along. When he had found out about your unfortunate trauma turmoil, he suddenly got cold duck feet, and waddled as far into the water as he could carry both webbed feet, so he didn't have to feel obligated to helping you out. The times that you needed him the most, and he wasn't there, nor refused to be, tells me this quack is Not anything you would even want for a Real man by your side and at your beckoning call.
Yes, not only "emotional roller coaster ride," but a train wreck that was bound to crash, if you didn't do what you did. He obviously cannot and will not handle any responsibilities or commitments when it comes to your health. He is showing you this. and has just been waiting for You, sweetie, to push a few buttons, to end it all.
Don't feel bad, Don't change your mind, because it won't do you any good. He won't pick up to your calls, answer your texts even, and he is trying to tell you he is not your Florence Nightingale, and to fly on out of his life.
I am so sorry for your illness that came upon you, and that he wanted no part in being there for you when you needed him the most. But now you know, that this type of schmo, is neither fit for consumption, nor marriage material, when it comes to: "In sickness and in health."
Good luck, and God bless. xx