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This is what I call a period of being in a "rebound relationship," where No one is good enough, you're NO good with anyone Else, and No one Else will do. It's a normal reaction after a bad break-up, but trouble is, sometimes we end up flying from the frying pan into the hot flames before we have even had a chance to lick our own stinging wounds. It's Not healthy for You, during what should Be This healing transition, and certainly Not Fair to the Other, who just so-happens to be the poor culprit.
Right now, you are holding in a lot of bottled up feelings, some bitterness, and you need to address them, so you are able to go on and learn to love again. I realize That is Not going to be easy, at least for a long time, for you will continue, and it's never for sure how long, comparing everyone you are with to Him. And deep inside, you'll be holding this secret "Grudge" that life has thrown you this curve ball, and your "Gut instinct guard" will then be Up in front of your face, like some Umpire's Mask. Yes, you're allowing the "Past" to control your whole life now, take over your body and mind, consume every inch of your being, for you haven't moved on, you're having problems putting one foot in front of the other, and the closure you thought would come a long time ago, just hasn't arrived. You need to find this.
I'm so sorry for your pain, for it happened to me. And even though I was just a mere girl of 16, it took me many boyfriends and much comparing to finally get over my First Love. I had initiated the break-up, and suffered the consequences of it for over 5 years, but my closure finally came, when we were able to have "One nite," which changed my whole life Once more. I had learned my feelings were different, and it was Then we were both free to Finally move on.
Take some time for You, and do some soul searching. You need this More than anything, and stay unattached. It's safer for you, better for All... for this moment in time.
Good luck. xx1