My ex and I broke up 10 months ago now. We went a good 8 months without talking, but she started talking to me again, under the title of she wanted to be friends with me, and she was up front the whole time she was dating another guy and it was only as friends.
The guy she is dating now she dated before me too. She even recently told me that was the reason she broke up with me is she thought she was in love with him and she had only dated me for two months at the time and hadn't developed the same feelings for me as she had with him. I guess we started dating almost immediately after they broke up and then he started contacting her again and was real pushy about it, anyway she kinda screwed me over.
She has started calling me a lot lately, and she is still dating this guy but I get a feeling she talks to me more than she talks to him. Like we had 2 hour conversations both today and yesterday and one day last week she called me three times in the same day.
It was all friendly as she said, but recently she is some things that I don't know how to take. First she told me her boyfriend knows that she talks to me a lot and he looks at her phone logs and he isn't happy but she doesn't care. She then told me that she feels bad for her boyfriend situation right now, he has a rough stretch going on, and told me that she is a sucked for someone who "needs saving" and she feels she has to make them better. After that she told me "If I had a brain, I'd be dating you still, and never have broken up with you, you have your crap together". Later she also told me that I am better looking than her boyfriend. She also said at one point "I don't know why I broke up with you". And a couple days ago she told me I am genuinely the nicest person she ever met and that I would make the best dad when I have kids.
I am trying to stay out of talk like that considering she says we are friends, and I don't like messing around with people who are taken. What should I do?
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She sounds like a kid in a candy store and can't decide what she wants. She also sounds like an asshole for saying intimate shit like that while she's dating another guy.
Anyways her bullshit can mean a few things
-She's just saying whats on her mind with NO ulterior motive because you are "friends"
-She's trying to keep you on standby in case she breaks up with her current boyfriend again
-She's trying to test the waters to see if you're still interested in her for an ego boost
-she's trying to test the waters to see if you're still interested in her because she regrets leaving you
-she can't decide what she wants and wants YOU to make the decision for her.
Anyways, she sounds like a mess and she's all over the place. She's said a few things I consider red flags. Which are that she's a sucker for guys who "need saving" and her boyfriend doesn't want her talking to you.
Its best to be honest and ask her WTF she thinks she doing. But even if she tells you, she'll probably do something else (or the opposite of what she said she wants).
in my opinion I don't think you should put too much faith in this chick. She doesn't sound stable romantically, and she doesn't sound trust worthy.1
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