This weekend I was visiting my now ex-gf. We are in a long distance relationship for one month in which she was very stressed. In this month she wasn't calling oftenly, and a couple of time she got very angry with me about some misunderstanding. This weekend I was visiting her for first time and she was very angry, and she said she wanted to break up with me, and I said ok and she got angry because she said I don't care about anything. She keeps saying we don't understand each other and I don't listen. I stayed at her place and we shared some time together and she was in a better mood and we were really closed. But I have to call my cousin because he was worried and she went to the supermarket and when she came back whe was really angry because I left her on her own and I was not worried about her. She began again to be angry and mean, and next day I couldn't stand it anymore and I left her place because I told her I was doing my best to treat her right and she was treating me like an asshole. Whe called me 20 minutes later to see where I was going to sleep, I think whe wanted me to give up and return, but I'm not sure. So I think we are not together anymore. Why did she dumped me, because I was very in love and too nice to her, o because she couldn't get what she expected from me? Should I try to fix things?
She had a previous relationship where she has told me whe was very angry because he didn't love her and strung her along.
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She dumped you because she got nothing from you - she didn't see you emotionally invested, she didn't see you care about her, she is one of those girls who needs obvious drama in her life that she can SEE, because you're just a black box to her. She has no clue what is going on inside you, and she fills that silence with all the worst things her self-doubt can invent.
When she said she wanted to break up with you, she was saying that to get a reaction from you. She wanted you to emotionally explode, tell her that you didn't WANT to break up, and how much she meant to you. Instead you went "Okay, whatever you want"
You were not doing her a favour by giving her what she said she wanted. You were frustrating the hell out of her because she didn't get the emotional reaction from you that she needed.
A girl like her doesn't want you to give her everything she wants on a whim - that's not important to her, and isn't what she actually wants. She wanted closeness with you, understanding you, communication with you.. but mostly she wanted to know how you felt and thought about things.1