She called and told me and as soon as my bf saw who was looking at his site, he deactivated his account.
When he came over I told him everything I saw on the site and that I know he's an active user of the site. He said that the site is nothing a and he should have told me about it and he only used it to look at profiles and he created it a long time ago before we met. And I asked him why was he changing his profile picture and updating information if he was just using the site for looking at other people. He tried to turn the issue on me and was saying like if I dont trust him then "what's the point." And i told him if he had time to update his pic and info, why didn't he change his relationship status or what he was looking for on the site.
He told me when he leaves my place he is going to send me the user name and pswd to the account so i can see he wasn't talking to anyone. and I told him that he should just log in in front of me and he said no bc that was humiliating and if i dont trust him there is no point to the relationship. I told him that with the information present and seeing how active he is on the site I have no reason to trust him anymore.
So I told him not to text me anymore.
Haven't spoken for 2 weeks. I was more upset that he thought it was ok to be single on a dating site. I dont think he cheated but i didn't like that he didn't come to apologize.
What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
I agree with vmw2008, however, I will add that while he may not have cheated in a traditional sense, he was looking to. I'm around guys the vast majority of time, and the only time guys get on dating sites of any kind is to get girls, NOT "just to look at profiles".
If you haven't officially broken up, do it now and don't ever take him back. He WILL do it again. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but he will eventually do it again.
I'm sorry you had to go through this. If you need anymore help feel free to ask.
p.s. Make sure you thank your friend for having your back if you haven't already. A lot of people wouldn't have gotten involved.0
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Most Helpful Girl
He was just trying to flip the tables on you because he got caught. "If you don't trust me then there's no point"? lol More like you saying "If I can't trust you then there's no point." You can't trust him. He was actively on the site. Whether he physically cheated or not is irrelevant because he was emotionally cheating.
Don't over think this. Your gut reaction was right. Guys get away with behavior like this because they do a great job of making their girl feel guilty for "not trusting them." Do you think for even one second that he'd forgive you for doing the same thing? Especially if he was being completely faithful? No way in hell.
Also, he wouldn't get on it in front of you not because he was embarrassed, but because he hadn't had a chance to delete his conversations yet. He was going to send you his password after he deleted all the convos with other girls first.
Don't be fooled by the lies. A faithful guy would never be actively single on a dating site. And a remorseful guy would never have avoided apologizing if caught. He's neither faithful nor remorseful.1