Now I found out he was the one bothering her and she wanted nothing to do with him until she asked him "please, don't contact me again" (recent). She knew I hated her and oh my god, I wished her dead so many times for so long.
My bf and I fought, we'll probably break up, but that's alright. What I did though, was sending her a message, because I felt awful that in my head she was the worst kind of person, I swear I wished her the very worst. So I sent her a FB message saying something like
'i know you don't wanna hear from me, i know this whole situation is horrible. i just want to let you know that you're a very respectable person, very honest. We never talked, but in some way you were part of my life these past years and in my head i wished you the worst and now I know I was very mistaken. I know you never wanted to meet me (long story), but I'd just like to tell you that you are smart and deserving and you behaved very properly in this situation with this guy, who did a terrible job by making me believe you wanted to interfere in our relationship'
Something like that. I don't wanna create bad karma and if one day I run into her (likely), I don't want to come off as irrationally rude or offensive. How did it all sound?
Most Helpful Girl
It sounded as though it was from the heart.
That being said, it wasn't exactly necessary. She may be the reason you're fighting, but she herself had nothing to do with the (potential) failure of your relationship with her ex.