Things with my now ex boyfriend were extremely great. We were stronger than any relationship I've had, and I've had a few serious ones. Two weeks ago, something happened at home. I live three hours away from him, so I couldn't be there to comfort him physically, but I did my best with the communication methods we have.
He wouldn't tell me the details of his stresses. He just said he was going through a lot and didn't want to talk about it. Over the next two weeks, he slowly shut me out more and more. The guy who two weeks earlier would send me cute texts every few hours was now going days without a word.
I went home for a few days to see family for Easter . He was busy with his own family stuff, but normally this wouldn't keep him from trying to see me. He didn't even make an effort. He said he was stressed and didn't want to see me like this.
Finally he said he couldn't do it anymore and broke it off. He said it wasn't fair to me and he couldn't be in a relationship right now. He said he felt lost and needed to find himself before he could move on.
This all makes me feel like the break up had nothing to do with me. That he still loves me but can't feel those emotions right now. And although I'm hurting I still have such a strong urge to be there for him. I don't know how to do that without making him feel weak, or without pushing him further away.
I guess I do hope that he'll get through this and want to start over. But I'm not sure what the chances of that are or how to approach the situation to make that happen.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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Sorry for what happened.. It takes a toll on you because like you said, you want to be there for him and would be, but he doesn't want it right now. Unfortunately, I think you have to give him his space. I personally don't believe in all that "needing space" to work things out and being in a relationship is an added stress. If you love someone and truly care, you make it work. He is probably going through a hard time with whatever it is that's going on. Just probably at a low point and one of those things that no matter what you say can talk him out of. I say give him a little space but let him know you still care. Not like how you probably used to.. Send him thoughtful texts or call him, but not so frequently. You have to look out for yourself as well and not allow someone who said that they care about you push you aside because of anything. Hopefully, he'll work through whatever it is that's going on for him and realize he needed you (and your support) all along..0