Let's say your a 35 year old man who is well off in career, financially etc. You were engaged once before and it ended so now you're doing the dating thing.
You're seeing this woman but you're not in a relationship. She's in her 30's and has a son herself to another man. You have other women interested in you wherever you go. How do you feel about being with someone who has a child? If you're non-committal, is it an issue for you? Or at that stage in life if you feel you've missed the marriage and family peak because you were pursuing career, is it then something you want regardless?
Does the thought of someone elses child turn you off? Now you don't love this person and you aren't in a relationship. You are just "seeing" them. Does it cross your mind?
How many would be trying to avoid this situation for fear of it becoming more than it is?
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I am going to answer this question because I have been in two serious relationships with guys who had kids. It is much tougher then one thinks. you have to remember that the kids come first and that they always will. Many of your dates may get canceled because the kids are sick, or the father can't watch them because he has to work late. Also it is tricky because they aren't your kids so you can't punish them in the same way you could punish your own kids. You have to set limits and bounderies and be very clear and up front about what you will and won't put up with. I found out that I enjoyed spending time with my ex boyfriends children and that when the relationship was over it was like loosing step children. That all depends on the relationship you build the kids. I am not sure I would want to go through it again, but at my age (37) it would be almost impossible to date someone who doesn't have kids. If you find someone you feel you connect with I say its worth trying, but do keep in mind you will not be their first priority.2