In my experience, when I've made the move on guys and asked them out, it has always ended badly. Usually, they string me along, cancel the night before, or lose all interest. So, why are guys so adamant about preaching that women should make a move...when it seems to turn them off?
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Guys, like women, are full of it and don't know what they want. In other words, people are full of shit. Even the ones that do have a good handle on themselves are still prone to bouts of stupid. From what I have seen, and from my own personal experience, there is a middle ground.
The guy wants you to flirt. He wants you to show him you have some interest. He might even want you to spark up a conversation first. You know, break the ice. But do guys want you to make the first move when it comes to going out? Personally, I don't believe so. I think it sends a message that she's too available or too interested and the guy picks up on it, at least subconsciously. I think you should give the signs of interest, even spark up a conversation first if the opportunity presents itself, but avoid trying to be the one to make plans outside of that immediate encounter or as the guy out.0