I haven't been dating this guy for very long. We are finally getting to the point where we can talk about serious meaningful things. Last night I asked if he found me attrattractive. He said yes. I said something about being overweight and he said yes, that I am overweight (which I am), but that he finds me attractive, likes my personality and wouldn't be around if he wasn't attracted to me.
I am overweight, so don't think I'm some stick he's calling overweight. He's a bit overweight too. Like 5 ft 6 and 200 lbs and I am probably 30 lbs over my ideal weight. Idk. I was just taken aback. Total mood killer. Last night was the first time he spent the night.
It was honest, but hurtful, but nice because I know he can get passed it? Idk. How should I respond to that?
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My wife is overweight. I love every pound, but I won't lie to her if she asked me. If you don't like the answer, don't ask the question. I think you are upset because you don't like your weight and may have been denying it and he plopped the answer right on your face. I don't think he was being disrespectful, you just didn't like the answer, or were hoping for another one. You need to appreciate his honesty. This is a tricky question that can trap many guys. Best to be honest. Would you rather he lied to you? Overweight doesn't mean ugly, or a turnoff. I am sure you are very sexy and attractive. His answer may have been a little too blunt and should have been softened somewhat, but I am sure he meant no insult.2