So this is a very hard subject for me to talk about but...i need advice so here goes. I'm 20 years old, just turned 20 actually, and I have never been kissed. I'm beginning to think its weird. Men also seem to show no interest in me at all. I think my body is pretty ok, I mean I have big boobs and long legs and I'm thin. While a may have these good attributes that I can admit to myself...i think the reason men do not approach me is because they perhaps find me too hideous. It may be paranoid but I constantly feel that people are judging me and thinking that I am ugly. I feel that unlike most people who think they are ugly...i know for a fact that I am ugly and this will hinder me. Also, all my life no one has ever told me I was pretty or beautiful, not even my mother and my friends sometimes joke about my looks. I don't think they know that it really hurts when they say the things they do.
I would really like for someone to just give me the hard facts about my looks with brutal honesty. because honestly I can't tell what people are thinking and I assume it is bad all of the time.
I would really like to have a meaningful relationship with someone I find attractive one day but I don't know if I can since I am the way I am. I don't really know what question I would like to ask in this...i guess I would just like your opinions on my situation. Any answer will be much appreciated.
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It makes me sad to think that you have such little confidence in yourself. I really believe that no one is ugly, they just might not be what society considers attractive and it's not fair to them to be classified as ugly. I think what makes me even more sad is that you believe you're ugly just because no one has told you otherwise.
I haven't seen you but I'm going to tell you this, you are no doubt a wonderful person who has many awesome qualities and you know what? That's all I really need to tell you that you're pretty :)
Don't be the one to cause your unhappiness! Wear what you want to wear (not because someone tells you it will look good but because you like it and it makes you happy), act how you want to act (because if you're being fake just to have people like you, that can be a totally unattractive quality) and smile, always smile (because if you're happy with yourself and think that you're pretty then that will catch other people's attention and they'll start to think the same way too)
Never being kissed has nothing to do with being ugly (cause there are some 'gorgeous' people who have never been kissed and some 'not so attractive' people who have been). Don't worry, it will happen eventually, it always does :)
Sorry for the short novel haha, I guess I get carried away at times.2