He is a doctor and is older and in general is nice- he pays for everything, opens doors, does the gentleman thing. But he is critical of really weird stuff. Like he said that I looked better thinner after I went to a dinner party with his friends. Weird thing is he said his best friend agreed. He also said that I was socially awkward, and when I disagreed, he brought up 3 of his friends that agreed. He also said that his friends worried I would "slow him down" because I'm an introvert and he's an extrovert. (I thought opposites attract? And besides I do like going out, and I have more friends than he does) He does weird stuff like make comments about the fat on my thights after I lost 25 lbs (partly b/c of what he had said before ) and when we were on a trip in Italy he said my fingernails looked stupid because the polish was flaking off and "he couldn't see what put together woman would go out like that". I ended up filing my nails inside my purse while he was in the bathroom so there was nothing on them. I mean is this crazy or these just quirks?
- Normal Behavior- Worth putting up withVote A
- Not Normal- This guy sounds psychoVote B
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Sounds like it would be in your best interest to move past him and not give him one more second of your journey. Him criticizing your body when he is not even your boyfriend and you two have barely solidified a bond is a red flag. That is tacky, rude, and careless on his part. I can only imagine what other tactless things he will do later on if he would be so shamelessly bold as to say something like that to you. Even if you are socially awkward, that's not something to be put on display in front of his friends. That was extremely rude and insensitive of him to jeopardize embarrassing you in front of his friends just to arrogantly prove himself right.
These are NOT QUIRKS: these look like the beginning stages of a guy who is controlling, belittling, and possibly even abusive. He has no place or right to be criticizing you as a woman. Sooner or later, his rude comments are going to shrink your self-esteem. Stay away from him. Do not settle for such a jerk because he's occasionally nice.0