I have been out with this guy for only 4.5 months (officially), we knew each other a year ago as he's the presentative of the partner company. We started the relationship when i quit and got a new job.
We live in different country, he lives in Malaysia and I live in Vietnam, he travels here to where i live every 2-3 months for work. We have tried to see each other as often as possible (i went to Malaysia to see him or we met in Hong kong as we were both on business trips... Things were alright as we're both busy with our jobs. I just got a new job 2 months ago so we could only chat a few times during the day, Skype calls at weekend etc...
He has just returned from a 2 week trip and during that time we barely talked as the internet where he went to was bad and the time difference did make it difficult. He said he didn't think it would be this tough. It's the same for me especially when i am lucky enough to get a relaxing weekend with no business trip or events to organise. And the next few months will be super hectic. We might not see each other at all for 3 months. He said the thought made him sick, and he doesn't know what to do.
I'm worried we might not be able to cope and we will give up eventually. We talked a few times about this but we both want to stay where we are as the jobs are great. He signed a contract till 2016 to work in Malaysia and after that he might move to another country, but not Vietnam. I prefer to stay in Vietnam as i already have a house here and i want to stay close to my parents to help them with family business when they need me.
In 2 years i might change my mind and decide to move with him or the other way round. But for now, i dont know how we can get through this? Please give me some advice, i already googled thousand times. We do spend a lot of time working but we still have time to miss each other. We do all romantic, crazy trips when we meet. Surprised trips and presents too... i'm lost!!!
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My boyfriend and I are also long distance and we pretty much got a schedule overtime that took both of our schedules into mind. It's hard at times because the both of you are required to live two totally different lives. He has his life and you have your's. Communication is always key, try to find time to talk to each other and make sure you both are still being involved in each other's life. It gets hard I know, but when you find someone that you feel is truly worth the effort, it pays off. For my relationship, it's hard to just spend most of the time without him, but I know I have a connection with him that I've never had with someone I met in "real life". I'm someone who believes a relationship should always bring you more happiness than pain. If you both think it's worth it, try to work it out. I know it's early in the relationship but it may lead to someone great.0