I want to ask out this cute Muslim girl in my class but I don't want to offend her.
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My best friend did that. It ended up with death threats, kidnappings, the girl being tied to a chair, guns, and dramatic escapes in the night. That kind of drama went on for over ten years. The couple dated secretly all that time under constant fear.
They ended up eloping. Even after that her family would not accept it, especially the family "back home". After they were married, eventually they agree to go through a second marriage, a Muslim marriage this time. The family finally kind of accepted it then.
It's not just the girl you need to find out about, but her whole family, including extended family back home. Even with a somewhat westernized family, the extended family can put tremendous pressure on them. If you do it, make sure you know what you are getting into, and do it up front. Even if they know this is how it's done in the west, even if they really try to adapt, it can be very hard for them to do.0