Im curious to know if when dating and in a relationship if guys will hold out on texting to see if their girlfriends or the one their interested in will text them first, or to see how long it takes them to text? Do they enjoy when their woman texts them first? Im not much of a chaser but im begging to to believe my guy likes this game.
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It's a little bit more complex than your question makes it out to be. Plus, your subject says one thing, and your question focusses on how much a guy will wait in texting. I think these are two different issues.
Let me share with you my own experiences...
Every woman who has been involved in my life has invariably been the one to take the first step. At least she made her intentions very clear. As I see it, it's not so much an issue of chasing or being chased, but rather about waiting to act till real possibilities appear.
Maybe I'm just unsure of myself, or maybe I hate rejection (and losing) and can't take it. Resultantly, I'm very cautious when it comes to taking the first step. Who wants to be disappointed? To be turned down?
In addition to his, women have a deeper sense in terms of reading a person's mind. (A woman can easily detect a man who's interested in her, whereas a guy could easily misread a woman.) There's another factor too: very few guys will turn down a woman (this is true in most societies, specially where the gender ratio is not too squewed... I'm not talking about societies where there are too many single or divorced women floating around). But guys can often get a rejection from a girl.
Once I get a signal from a girl that's she's interested, more often than not, I'll work on it. I won't play mind games to check how keen she is, or how long she'll delay before texting (most men are not great game players!) But mostly a small signal is enough to set me on the track.
Of course, this is assuming that both are equally interested in a relationship or whatever, and it's not very one-sided...1
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