My boyfriend has 4 kids, I don't have any. He gets them 4 days out of the month. My question is this, he drinks and gets drunk when he gets them for weekends! His behavior has caused me to question if I want to tolerate this in my life and relationship. I'm not one to tell people what to do and let people make their own choices, I put us on a 2 day space just for me to collect my thoughts on how to approach his behavior. Any input about how I should approach him without it being blown out or cause a fight or argument? He needs to know this is serious. He even drinks and drives and with his kids and me in the car
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Unfortunately I don't really know how it could be handled without an argument happening.
I'm guessing, if he's like this with the kids and you around. He's the same when they aren't around.
You need to tell him straight out, that you are concerned about his drinking and driving. And that he is putting the lives of strangers and loved ones at risk.
You will likely get the "I'm fine" or "I can handle it" type responses.
Then saying something about he shouldn't be getting drunk when his kids are around. Well, that would likely start WW3.
You should be questioning your relationship with him. Tell him if he isn't willing to make some changes with his actions. That you will not stay around to watch him hurt people he loves.
Don't get in the car if he has been drinking. Don't let the kids in the car.
If he drives drunk. Is there a car you can follow him in? Call the cops on your cell. Tell the dispatch your following a drunk driver. They'll get a vehicle description and where you are. And they will send a car or two to stop him. Maybe getting arrested might smarten him up.
That's what it took for me.
He has obviously got a problem. It will likely get worse. I hate to say it but it will likely take something fairly substantial to happen in his life before he stops.0