What would make you want a second date and what would make you not?
Also when he asked me out he said he wants to take me out for dinner. To me that meals he's paying but should I still offer to pay for myself to be polite? or how do I act when the bill comes?
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A few things:
Your phone should be away, and preferably on silent. It's sad that I even have to mention not having your phone out on a date- that should be common courtesy with anyone. If I was at a restaurant with a girl who wouldn't put her phone down, I'd probably just get up and leave her there.
Don't be negative. I asked you out to get to know you better and have a good time, not to hear you complain about "work is hard, my boss sucks, my coworkers suck, school sucks, all of these people I know are bitches, etc." That doesn't mean you have to be happy go lucky about everything, but keep the negativity down unless it's relevant to the conversation.
At least offer to pay, even if you're faking it. The standard now seems to be "He should offer to pay, then I offer to pay my share, but he should insist on paying the whole bill." The false niceness isn't fooling anyone, but if you actually go in INSISTING that he pay the whole thing, then that's cause for trouble. As such, he may take you up on your fake offer to pay half, so be prepared to actually pay half if you need to.
If you're enjoying it, act like it. I'm not sure why "the chase" or "hard to get" is such a thing, but nothing bothers me more. If you enjoyed the date, say so. If you want a second date, consider setting it up yourself (and be prepared to pay for it if you do). Don't do any of the "ignore his first few calls afterward" thing- that just makes you seem uninterested, and that's going to put a lot of good guys off.1