i overheard my husband talking to his ex girlfriend about me, saying that he didn't want me to know what he was capable of and that i will never know everything about him. he was saying that she (his ex) knew everything but his wife didn't and she never will. does this mean that he is being protective of me and is a sign of his love? i know he has a rough past. do you tell your partner everything or should there be some secrets to protect the one you love?
Should you tell a partner everything?
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Well. In my own opinion yes, i would tell the woman I will ask to marry me everything. My reason for this idea (i haven't got to that stage with a woman yet) is because at any given time this ex can tell you something you don't know and embellish it, hell, she could even make something up completely and because you overheard this conversation you'd think it was true.
We aren't all squeaky clean, life throws too much dirt around for that to be the case. Everyone has scars, everyone has regrets, everyone has had moments of ecstasy and forbidden pleasure. That is what makes us human and that is what has brought me to any given moment. So yes, in a hope of her understanding me further and to give the relationship a strong foundation which people cannot undermine I would.1
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No, I do not tell my partner everything, and probably never will. They might know a lot, but not everything. I don't think you should try to read anything into it, like his motives for not telling you. I think you should just take him for who he is today, and let his past remain in the past. It may even be something he wishes he didn't know himself. We can't turn back the clock, but we can shove it in a corner and forget about it. Some things just don't need to be brought up, even with a spouse.
I don't want this to come across as something necessarily horrible. It might not be a big deal, or something he's just embarrassed about. Let him tell you in his own time, or not at all.
As for his ex knowing it and not you. Maybe it's something she experienced with him. Or something she couldn't help but know about at the time.0
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