I'm a guy in his mid 20s who's just been on two dates with a girl of the same age group (so not quite undergrads any more like most of the people on here). We met via Tinder (it's actually much less of a hookup app than I had imagined, you actually meet normal people there like you would anywhere).
Anyway after the 2nd date it seems that things are really going nowhere.
For context I thought I'd mention that though no longer a virgin, I am still relatively inexperienced in the realm of dating.
We have not held hands or kissed, the greeting at the start/end of the date has been exactly the same every time: a light hug and an air cheek kiss.
On the date everything seems to be going well and the conversation is flowing but it just seems more friendly than romantic (and absolutely not going in the direction that you'd think if you met someone off Tinder).
She doesn't really seem enthusiastic about texting (while as other girls I've dated have been generally been much more responsive). At the end of our last date, I was kind of going for a mouth kiss but she seemed to turn away so it ended up as another cheek one.
Though she's really nice and the dates go well and she says she enjoys them (well the 2 so far), I'm not that into her to wait it out in the hopes that at some point down the line things will turn for the friskier/more romantic side.
As now its come to the time of the third date, I think this is a bit of a milestone/thinking point where one would have to decide whether they keep dating someone or move on to the next person because at the moment it seems like things are not going anywhere. Or I'm just terrible at reading girls and she's hoping that I'd make more of a move, I really can't tell.
So what would you do? 2 dates and nothing yet. Those stories of 3rd date sex are just fairy tales to my ears.
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She goes at a slower pace. Is she inexperienced as well? And it sounds like she isn't into texting, which I totally get. It probably doesn't have anything to do with you, it's just that some people aren't good at communicating that way, or don't like it. It's up to you, but if you generally like her otherwise, I'd go on a third date and see if things change. Do something fun and interactive, try to kiss her this time, and if it's not happening or the chemistry isn't there, then I'd move on.
During the date, I would try being in her space more and getting her comfortable around you. Seems like she needs you to initiate the physical stuff and take more control. Take her hand, or put her arm in yours when walking. Pull her closer/sit closer. Hand on her back to steer her somewhere, etc. Break the touch barrier and build up to kissing her. As the date's winding down, be somewhere relatively private, and go in for a kiss/potential make out session. Don't hesitate to keep kissing her - as long as she's participating and not pulling away you're fine.0