If your in or was involved with a guy you didn't find attracted to begin with how was it? How long did it go before you get attracted to him? Why did you decide to continue to date him?
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there's different levels of attraction. the ones that immediately seem hot or amazing are often just the ones who just want to get in my pants. they have that swag.
then there's immediate attraction that is more subtle, you feel it but you don't feel like OMG... you feel like "i would not mind if this guy kissed me, but i am not losing my head over him i am getting to know him"
that's what it was like with my boyfriend. when i first met him i felt like we had a good conversation, i didn't think he was like channing tatum but i did not feel turned off by him, he made me laugh, and i enjoyed his company and by the end of the date i knew i would not mind if he kissed me. it took me a while to fully warm up with him but on our first date we were strangers. so considering i was able to spend a few hours talking to a stranger and he could make me laugh and it didn't feel weird, plus i didn't feel turned off or weirded out by him, plus i realized i would not mind if he kissed me, that was a good start.
however i had my heart open to love. i used to just look for that instant high level of passion that swept me away. i learned that these feelings are usually trouble and learned to look for someone i could enjoy his company and feel interested but not to the point that my head and judgment are turned off. that was my boyfriend. and the attraction just gets stronger and stronger as time goes on.0
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