It's like a six sense. When I was younger I would watch horror movies and predict the ending before it happened.
Now I can tell what type of person a guy is.
Because I will feel off about him. Even if don't have a valid reason.
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I think people in general have more of an instinctual sense than they acknowledge, and this encompasses things beyond romance. Consider the people who walk around with ear buds blasting music into their skulls. They become oblivious to what people are doing around them and consequently become vulnerable. I have never done this, because my instincts tell me not to, but these people seem to have no trouble disregarding their instincts this way. That has always seemed like the oddest thing in the world to me.
I think all women have the instinct to spot bad men but choose to disregard it because the guy is attractive, confident, charming, and so on. Their sense of empathy gets in their way because they feel that they are obligated to ignore their instinct, to keep an open mind, and to give him a chance. When he has been given a chance and blows it, the womanly sense of empathy gets in the way again because they feel that they are obligated to give him a second chance, then a third, then a fourth. Before you know it, they are emotionally attached to a player, womanizer, manipulator, abuser, etc.
Women would do well to pay more attention to their instinct. If they feel that their instinct is not working correctly, then they should ask the men around them what their instincts say. Men have insider information on the way men operate and their (3x) greater territorialism makes them very well suited to spot threats of various kinds, not only to themselves but also potential mates, so men can spot these players, womanizers, manipulators, abusers, and other unsavory characters from a mile away. Women would do well to consult with the trustworthy men around them. This will help them avoid unnecessary trouble but also give them information that will develop their instincts.1