I had a great first date with a guy I met. After that we kept texting each other, altough I was the one who always texted first (he only texted first three times). Last week we made plans to hang out but he said he was going to be out of town so he will text me on Friday to confirm. He didn't, so at Saturday afternoon I texted him to ask if we were still going out, but he said he was still out of town and he was sorry.
On Monday I texted him again and we talked, that day we decided to hang out again last wednesay night. But 30 minutes before our date he texted me saying he was still at work and he was not going to be able to make it. He said he was sorry and said "let's do it another day". I said I understand and I told him it was ok.
But today I couldn't stop thinking if maybe there was something wrong. So I asked him if he really wants to hang out with me someday and what does he want.
This is what he told me: "first of all I don't have any problem to hang out with you. And second, it scares me all the trouble and movies you make up in your mind. relax, there's nohing wrong. I just haven't had time, that's all. But I don't like you questioning me like that."
So I answered "about the first thing: that's good to know. I thought that maybe you don't want to hang out with me and that's why you cancelled twice. About the second thing: I'm not making movies in my mind. I just thought it was weird, and I decided to ask you if there was something wrong instead of making assumptions... and I'm sorry about the questioning thing, I didn't mean to bother you, it won't happen again... so do you forgive me and everything is fine?"
He said "yes, relax".
It was the end of the conversation!! I don't know if he is going to text me again. I really like this guy, so what should I do?
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If a girl that I kind of like but not really sure either way. How he is treating you , is the way I would treat her. The fact he said or used the word SCARES is not a good sign and it tells me he clearly has no problem finding dates as he is comparing you to the other girls and how they react to similar situations. He's kind of planted the seed or idea in your head that you've scared him away guys sometimes do this is an easy way out instead of having to be the bad guy or prick by not wanting another date a guy will lead you to believe that it's you in the wrong that's why he left or is no keen ( I've actually done it myself in my younger days as a boy but I'm a man now and know that's not tHE way to handle it) What worries me is the cancellations , Like yes cancel but if you're working late you know well before 30 mins before the date. That makes me think someone else is in the picture. As in my younger days I did exactly the same thing except 4 times to the poor girl broke her heart she was so upset. I was prick back then but I've learned from those mistakes. Sounds to me like he doesn't value you and trying to win him back probably won't happen as you never really had him in the first place ! Sorry if that's harsh but straight up there's a guy out there some place that will treat you good my advice look for that guy..0